Write Lightning is a blog from writer Deb Thompson.
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(Some links or topics may not be completely kid-appropriate.)
Tue, May 05 2009
Hostile social media?
I have mixed feelings about the bill proposed by Linda Sanchez (and others). I've had trouble with an intermittent form of hostile behavior by someone, but I think it was more an issue of inconsistency in the way they related to me. They were kind one minute and hostile the next. I don't really think it was worthy of something I would invoke a law to stop. The person who caused me issues has moved on to other things or other people. These types of folks are generally deeply wounded individuals who can't bond to people the way we think of bonding. The core of who they are has been injured by abuse or other trauma and they simply don't know how to behave in a socially friendly manner. They go through the motions of being friendly and they set wide boundaries for their treatment of others. Those they deal with, however, are not given that same wide latitude and are not allowed to approach them negatively or criticize their behavior. They become narcissistic, sabotaging relationships and then blaming the other people in those relationships, even casual ones. They never see themselves as the cause of the failure and they will use any means at their disposal to triumph in their own broken world. They're like frightened children, but one never knows whether they will just find another person to treat badly, or whether they will turn dangerous. I really don't see how yet another law is ever going to take care of things like that, unless it's used somewhat the same way as a restraining order, in which any further abuse can be logged and documented on the part of the one being hurt.
Would such a bill threaten free speech? Sad to say, at some point, it would probably come to that. I'm thankful that human-made laws are only applicable to this life, and not to eternity.
posted at: 09:23 | category: /Miscellaneous | link to this entry
I have mixed feelings about the bill proposed by Linda Sanchez (and others). I've had trouble with an intermittent form of hostile behavior by someone, but I think it was more an issue of inconsistency in the way they related to me. They were kind one minute and hostile the next. I don't really think it was worthy of something I would invoke a law to stop. The person who caused me issues has moved on to other things or other people. These types of folks are generally deeply wounded individuals who can't bond to people the way we think of bonding. The core of who they are has been injured by abuse or other trauma and they simply don't know how to behave in a socially friendly manner. They go through the motions of being friendly and they set wide boundaries for their treatment of others. Those they deal with, however, are not given that same wide latitude and are not allowed to approach them negatively or criticize their behavior. They become narcissistic, sabotaging relationships and then blaming the other people in those relationships, even casual ones. They never see themselves as the cause of the failure and they will use any means at their disposal to triumph in their own broken world. They're like frightened children, but one never knows whether they will just find another person to treat badly, or whether they will turn dangerous. I really don't see how yet another law is ever going to take care of things like that, unless it's used somewhat the same way as a restraining order, in which any further abuse can be logged and documented on the part of the one being hurt.
Would such a bill threaten free speech? Sad to say, at some point, it would probably come to that. I'm thankful that human-made laws are only applicable to this life, and not to eternity.
posted at: 09:23 | category: /Miscellaneous | link to this entry
